It's not such a black and white argument I'll agree and unlike your religious views I can see where you're coming from. What I do detest is the Christians that argue for abortions to be banned across the board. A woman who is pregnant due to rape for example. In that instance the woman should certainly have the right to abort the pregnancy. Also instances where the woman's life could be at risk if an abortion is not performed. Certainly then the woman should have the right.
Abortion due to gender however. No I do not agree with that as a moral choice but I still think it should be the parents rights.
Murder? Abortion certainly isn't that. We are talking about life that possesses no conscience or self awareness.